New dating relationships are great. Things start off with everything going swell, or at least they seem to be going well. It can be hard to see things how they really are. You feel as though you’ve met the man of your dreams, but have you really? With that in mind, here are seven sure signs of trouble to be on the watch for; before it’s too late.
1 – All decisions are made by him.
He may be trying to be chivalrous, or he may be controlling. If he decides where every date is, orders your food for you, and doesn’t ask what you’d like to do, it could be a sign of trouble. There’s nothing wrong with a man who is confident and decisive, but you don’t want to end up with a control freak, either.
2 – He belittles, or doesn’t value, your opinion.
Healthy dating relationships require equal input from both parties. If you aren’t able to have a “side” when you are dating, you can bet things will not get better with the passage of time. If you see this happening, speak up and let him know you will be heard. If that doesn’t work, then it’s time to move on.
3 – Putting you down in front of others.
To be blunt, this isn’t cool, and could be a potential sign of future physical abuse. It may be a fluke if it happens once or twice, and you can give him a warning. Also, if others tell you he’s doing it, then believe them instead of making excuses for the unacceptable behavior.
4 – Rough and unwanted sex.
If he tries things you don’t want to do, let him know. If he keeps trying, then get rid of him. No questions asked, end of story, goodbye!
5 – Alienating you from friends and loved ones.
This is another sure sign of trouble in dating relationships is when he keeps you away from the people you care about. This may be done directly, or through psychological and emotional manipulation. Either way, you have to live your life, and while you can do that together, it should never be at the expense of your family and friends.
6 – Excessive flirting with others, and getting mad at you if you say something about it.
While it may not be uncommon for people to flirt, it is rude. And if he then tries to make you feel bad for what he did wrong, that’s not a good sign.
7 – Loss of temper over trivial things.
If it’s true that he’s trying to be his best early in the relationship, in the hopes of becoming more serious, then losing his temper early on should make you wonder how much worse it will be when he’s not on his best behavior.
If you can spot these warning signs early on in dating relationships you could save yourself a lot of hassle, and move on to a happier situation that much sooner. You don’t want to be overly paranoid, but it’s good to be alert for possible trouble.