Things can be difficult to deal with after breaking up with a guy, and it doesn’t matter if you broke up with him, or he broke up with you. Either way, you just don’t feel like yourself, there’s an emptiness that only you can understand, and you would like nothing more than to feel somewhat normal again. Maybe you have decided the only way to make that happen is to get your guy back.
As promising as that sounds, you need to understand that getting back together is usually harder than most people think. After all, there was some reason that you two broke up. Somebody wanted it to end. It’s always better to try to save a relationship while you are in it, but there is still hope if that isn’t the case.
Yes, it really is possible to be together again. It may not happen, it won’t be easy, but it is possible. However, before you do anything else, you have to be 100% certain that this is what you really want to do. You will also need to be sure that you have the right reasons for getting him back. In other words, don’t try to patch things up just because you think that’s what you’re supposed to – you need better reasons than that.
Listen up! This next point may sound a bit outdated, but it’s true. You need to make sure your emotions are under control before you try to get your ex back. Let’s face it, guys are not as geared to handling emotions as they can be.
That means it will be up to you to come to terms with much of what you’re going through. Things will go much smoother if you don’t shut the guy down by being overly-emotional. As mentioned, it may not be easy, but it can be done.
The next thing you need to do is start living your own life again. Yes, you want your guy back, but you are not a couple again right now. So, you need to show him that you are doing fine and are handling things like a well-balanced individual.
If you do the above things right, and it leaves a positive impression on your ex, then it won’t be long before he tries to get in contact with you. Be careful. Your tendency at this point may be to pour your heart out, to beg, to make empty promises, and so on. Don’t do it. Continue being calm and rational. Think of it this way, if the things you were doing led to him talking to you again, then it makes sense to keep doing them.
Doing the things above will give you the best chance of how to get your guy back. While they may be difficult to do, it will be easier to do them when you are able to keep the end result in mind. There are no guarantees in life, but you can stack the deck in your favor. All it takes is making the decision and doing what needs to be done, and before you know it, you will be happier than ever.