If you are reading this article, then it’s probably safe to assume you have recently gone through a break up. It’s also a safe assumption that you are either ready to be single and move on with your life, or you want to know how to win back lost love. There is also a good chance that you sometimes waver in these feelings and aren’t sure what to do.
Whatever you are going through, it may help to know that you are not alone and millions of people before have gone through the same thing. What does that have to do with you? Well, these are the people who learned from their mistakes. This means you can follow their time-tested advice and not have to make unnecessary mistakes of your own.
Before you start trying to win back your ex, you need to be honest with yourself. You have to be as objective as possible and ask yourself if you really want to get back together with them. Your initial reaction may be, “of course I want them back!”
But take some time to dig deeper. Perhaps you just don’t want to be alone. Or maybe you are more interested in the idea of being in love. Don’t feel bad if you ultimately decide to stay apart. Better to know it now than to move forward on false pretenses.
For the rest of this article, we will further assume that you want to win back lost love. In that case, one of the first things you must do is apologize for your past mistakes. This can be tricky if you’re not sure what they are. Even if you have said you’re sorry numerous times, keep trying.
Again, do some digging, some soul searching and you should be able to uncover the things you need to apologize for. Also, be sure that your apology is sincere. In other words, apologize because you want to, not because you think you’re “supposed to”.
If it was your ex who did wrong, then an apology would be great, but don’t expect one. It may or may not happen, and if you want them back, you can’t wait forever. Instead, you will need to forgive them.
You don’t necessarily have to forget, but you won’t hold their past actions against them; though you may watch for certain signs of trouble in the future. However, be careful that this comes from a place of logic and doesn’t evolve into mistrust. True forgiveness can be difficult, but will go a long way towards keeping your future relationship harmonious.
Finally, be willing to make any needed changes to make things work. But don’t go so far that you lose who you are, or to the point of being phony. You need to love each other for who you are. And, if you follow the tips above, and do things right then you will a very satisfying answer to the question of how to win back an ex.